The New Life

Saturday, March 11, 2006

What do you do when your best friend leaves?

I don't mean leaves in the sense of taking a trip to a distant country for a couple months. This person is leaving to start a new life. Not like college where you know there's breaks and the person comes back within a certain period of time.

Gone.

I don't have all that much to say about this particular subject, and although it's not really creative, or shedding light on anything, it just seems important.

Perhaps I'm being melodramatic, but just think for one second about how you'd feel if your best friend left. Just left you. Not within an hour or 2 drive....went the height of the country away.

Ya, exactly.
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Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Twisted Reality
Isn't it odd to sit back and look at other relatinships sometimes?

Over the course of my life I've seen many relationships wher I just didn't understand where the connection was, but there have been a couple where it just seemed odd that the person would even want to associate themselves with this person, let alone date. This has happened twice two friends of my, that I can recall presently anyway. The first is long passed, lasted for three or four months and the person in question realized the flaws in the other person.

The other has lasted at least double that, and is still going strong (in a manner of speak). Generally these relationships are so impassioned, so strongly weak, that others get pushed to the wayside. I just don't get it in this case. The person in question is such a strong person, so insanely willed to get her point across, so creative, so alive....and over the past months, she just fell dead.

I make no pretenses about our relationship...it's merely passing, not a bond forged over years of strife and love like others that we harbor. But in the little time that I've known her, I've watched her go from this free-flowing phoenix of a woman to a caged bird. I guess I just don't get how a person so strong-willed could be locked up by a man so.....so......

I should mention at this point that I've not met the man....

Now that that's out of the way. This man, though I'm sure a nice enough guy (they always turn out to be), is keeping her caged. The last time I talked to this girl her words were "he would rather not have me see certain people, whether i am alone or with him". I just don't see how you could contain a person like that. I've always been of the opinion that if a person can't hang out with their ex/exs of any sort (be it relationship or discreet sex partners) without making out with them or being all over them, then they aren't worth being with in the first place. I don't actively tell my girlfriend to go hang out with her ex's, but it's certainly not something I discourage. In any case, her reason for not hanging out with me is that, though she dislikes his opinion in this case, she'd rather not step on any toes. It's odd to see her transformed into this housewife of sorts, reduced to seeing only him and her remote girlfriends.

Don't get me wrong, I worry about my girlfriend. If you get too comfortable with her hanging out with certain people, then you're just setting yourself up for disaster. However, I would never try to restrict her in her frinedly activities....in fact, I encourage that she go out more often. People know me, know I'm an only child, know I like my space (that's my space, not MYSPACE).

So how does a person that you admire as a bastion of women's rights and forward thinking become trapped by a guy who, no doubt, wants to control her. How doesn't she see that? Do we become so blinded by the fact that someone wants us so badly, that we just ignore everything else?

I'd like to think that would never happen to me. I don't like to settle, but it HAS happened to me, with Andrea, and Leah. Though to a lesser extent, because they didn't really control me, they didn't really try, but I most likely would've let them, and for no reason other than the fact that I just wanted someone there to sleep with at the end of the evening.

I hope this person in question realizes that she's being controlled and gets out of this relationship because my friends and I miss her.

At a time when 60% of my time is spent with Kara, and the 0ther 40% is spent with people that I see in 1 hour incriments, and my best friend is 18-20 hours away......I could use a little friendship now and again.

More to come.
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